Sophia’s story

Posted by Jacqui Cooper On 20th Oct 2019

Perhaps you’ve met her before? I’ve featured Sophia in a couple of my blogs over the years as:

  1. she is very gracious in that she is willing to be open and share her story, her vulnerability, her learning and her successes,
  2. she does what she says she is going to do!

And that really is the point in sharing this content. It’s all about taking action. We can have plans, we can visualise but we have to do something. Sometimes new clients tell me “I don’t know what I want”. “Great”, I say, let’s start with that. Together we then create a list of everything she doesn’t want – and often what falls out of that, is clarity about what she does want. Hey presto, we have a starting point.

Sophia featured in my blog back in 2016 as one of my case studies when I gained accreditation as a Feng Shui Stylist. She has a dominant ‘water essence’ in her make-up and in the teachings of Feng Shui as the ‘Philosopher’ archetype, some of the key characteristics she expresses are:

  • Imaginative
  • Creative
  • Introspective
  • Spiritual
  • Independent
  • Sensitive
  • Intellectual
  • Solitary and wise.

Having spent quite a lot of time with Sophia over the years, these teachings absolutely resonate with her.

From my personal knowledge, various pieces of training and personal intuition I’m able to quickly assess clients in terms of who they are, where they are and where they want to be. And your personal style is integral to the bigger picture because your clothes help you express who you are in a way that is authentic for you.

We all have our stories – the story or beliefs we tell ourselves. That doesn’t mean that it is the truth. My most rewarding sessions are when I get to help a client make real change within their lives. Read on to learn what changes impacted on Sophia’s life having experienced a number of sessions with me from image consultancy through to life coaching.

Sophia’s story

“In January 2014 I found myself going through a very acrimonious divorce from an abusive man, the loss of 35 years of my financial independence, having been pressured into leaving my job and struggling whilst living on benefits, the potential loss of my rental home as my landlady had decided to put the house up for sale meaning I might be homeless (getting a rental when out of work and living on benefits was potentially an impossibility). When the divorce finally came through I was awarded very little money – most of it went to pay for the solicitor. I felt desperate. How should I start to unravel this mess???

“Jacqui was a star. Jacqui suggested I attend her Personal Development session – I really didn’t know what to expect but it was brilliant! Life changing! Through bite-size tasks, I discovered a lot about myself that I hadn’t realised and through this process, I was able to establish which areas of my life needed immediate attention and which were ambitions for the future. It helped me to establish my values, which became my drivers, and this helped me to focus on an action plan. The whole experience gave me the confidence to say, ‘I can do this!’

“I went home with a pile of written notes describing my values, and a clear sense and confidence that I was the captain of my ship and that this was an opportunity to be positive and to create the life I really wanted – I had nothing left to lose. I began to rewrite my notes and further thoughts on long lengths of paper pinned around the walls of the study and added images to the text to produce a vast vision board. I immersed myself in this space every day as I searched for work.

“I wanted a very well paid creative job working in a beautiful environment and a home where all the family could be safe and secure again – myself, three sons and two cats …

“A few months later I found myself working occasional days for an old colleague as a visiting lecturer on the BA (Hons) Hand Embroidery course, at The Royal School of Needlework, which is based at Hampton Court Palace. The days then became more regular and eventually became a full-time permanent job in September 2015.

“Now I was financially secure I needed to think about buying a home. I was almost 55 and so would only have a few years to pay off a mortgage.

“In January 2016, after a visit to the dentist, I decided to drive past a house that used to belong to an old friend of mine that I had always loved. I couldn’t believe when I saw that it was for sale. I made an offer which was accepted. I cashed in my pension early and used the lump sum to pay for the deposit, and the monthly payment to pay the mortgage.

“Later, after I moved in, I unpacked my huge vision board and realised I had bought a home almost identical to the one in the picture. That I had that creative job in a beautiful setting, and that I had created a place called home where all the children and the cats have eventually gravitated to and feel safe. My thoughts really had become real things.

“I recently attended another of Jacqui’s events to re-establish my values in order to create a new vision for the next phase of my life. I have a new vision board, new ambitions and further thoughts to focus on. Life really does seem to be about creating oneself and I really believe that the best is yet to come as I focus on balance and having fun!”

Sophia’s style

Sophia in red trousers
Note the red trousers!

Sophia’s default uniform is black which you’ll often find with highly creative people. Think clothing designers, hairdressers, photographers etc. It’s actually very grounding and on an energetic level if you need some time to just ‘be’ black is your best bet. Although, the bright red trousers are very noteworthy! Sophia’s intention is to have more fun and in the teachings of Feng Shui, the energetic frequency of red brings about excitement and fun. I can’t wait to hear what Sophia will be doing next! One thing I do know is that she has met some very inspiring famous people while she has been working in London.

Sophia’s secondary essence is that of metal which expresses itself as elegance, organised, minimal, refined, meticulous, reserved and I’ve noticed that in both of her homes I’ve visited over the years these are all expressed fully in the decor. Take a look at the setting of her beautiful studio apartment in London and how it meets the descriptive words above. This is where Sophia spends her time Monday to Friday then does a weekly commute back to her beautiful cottage in Huddersfield. A place called home for her, her sons and the two cats …

What’s next …

All the goals Sophia had set herself to-date have been achieved:

  • A new job working in a creative environment
  • Financial independence with a larger salary
  • A family home for stability and security
  • Improved health and well-being – did I get to mention she walks to work every day, immersed in nature and has spectacular views out of her office window over the grounds of Hampton Court Palace???

I’ll keep you posted with what Sophia did next …

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